Sometimes you need to remind yourself that you were the one who carried you through the heartache. You are the one who sits with the cold body on the shower floor, and picks it up. You are the one who feeds it, who clothes it, who tucks it into bed, and you should be proud of that. Having the strength to take care of yourself when everyone around you is trying to bleed you dry, that is the strongest thing in the universe.
“how far have you walked for men who’ve never held your feet in their laps?
how often have you bartered with bone, only to sell yourself short?
why do you find the unavailable so alluring?
where did it begin? what went wrong? and who made you feel so worthless?
if they wanted you, wouldn’t they have chosen you?
all this time, you were begging for love silently, thinking they couldn’t hear you, but they smelt it on you, you must have known that they could taste the desperate on your skin?
and what about the others that would do anything for you, why did you make them love you until you could not stand it?
how are you both of these women, both flighty and needful?
where did you learn this, to want what does not want you?
where did you learn this, to leave those that want to stay?”—Warsan Shire (via disgustinghuman)
“If you find yourself disregarding something she is saying because she is upset as she is saying it, notice that this is sexism. You may have been raised to believe emotion is not rational and is therefore not legitimate. That is for you to unlearn, not for you to impose on others. Emotion and intuition, when finely honed, serve clear thinking. Don’t retreat into your head or use logic to disconnect from empathy when you find emotions coming your way; clear thinking is informed by ethics and compassion. Build up your capacity to feel and to respond to feelings in a rational, intuitive, self-aware way. You’ll be more human for it, and a better feminist, too.”—dating tips for the feminist man | The Media Co-op (via brutereason)
Tom Fec (the brains behind Black Moth Super Rainbow and Tobacco) is at it again, and this time he’s joined forces with airplane mechanic/ex-con turned MC, Zackey Force Funk. Due to the popularity of previous collaborations like “Dirt" with Aesop Rock and "Fresh Hex" with Beck, I knew I couldn’t have been the only person itching for full hip-hop album produced by Tobacco. Luckily for us, Demon Queen has what we’ve been waiting for. "Swoll Tongue" has all the great trappings of a Tobacco track; distorted bass, swirls of psychedelic synth, and even a touch of Tom’s signature vocodor, but in this instance it’s matched with Zackey alternating between some deranged falsetto and another, deeper voice as he attempts to describe one of his uncontrollable and possibly darker-leaning attractions. Exorcise Tape is full of great moments like this, and any fans of Fec’s previous works would do well to glean some Demon Queen.